Vol 4. The Empress of Gems: Why Tourmaline is Your True Token of Commitment

Let’s be real for a second: the world is spinning at lightning speed, and sometimes it feels like we're all racing to keep up. And while everyone’s out here talking about boundaries, work-life balance, and self-love, I’m over here rolling my eyes. As if there’s some magical formula to balance work, life, and everything in between. (Jay Shetty nailed it when he said there’s no such thing as true balance when you account for hours in a day.) But here’s the truth: it’s not about getting everything in perfect harmony; it’s about knowing when to say no. And this is where the empress of gems, tourmaline, steps in.

I’ve been secretly collecting tourmaline gems for years—hoarding them like treasures, knowing that one day, they’d have their moment to shine. Well, that moment is now. Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that life isn’t going to slow down for you. Responsibilities aren’t going anywhere, and the demands of career, motherhood, and just existing in this chaotic world will never magically vanish. But what can change is how we approach all of it.

Tourmaline is more than just a gemstone. It’s that gentle reminder we need in our lives. It’s the empress—calm, composed, knowing when to step back, and when to step up. Not in the "I’m going to do it all" way, but in the "I’m going to do what matters" way. Because that’s the thing, isn’t it? Real strength isn’t found in doing it all—it’s in knowing what to focus on and where to pause.

Tourmaline: The Gemstone for the Real World

While we all love the idea of hustle and flow, the reality is that the constant grind wears you down. You feel it, I feel it. And then we spiral—juggling everything, feeling anxious, like we’re constantly one step behind. Here’s the kicker: we will always have responsibilities. But if we don’t protect our inner strength, how can we be present when it really matters?

Tourmaline, with its deep, rich colors and calming energy, is like that trusted friend who always knows when you need to breathe. It's the JOMO